How to Criticize

[From Daniel Dennett](

> – You should attempt to re-express your target’s position so clearly, vividly, and fairly that your target says, “Thanks, I wish I’d thought of putting it that way.
– You should list any points of agreement (especially if they are not matters of general or widespread agreement).
– You should mention anything you have learned from your target.
– Only then are you permitted to say so much as a word of rebuttal or criticism.

Previously: [How to apologize](